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Joy Is Not on the Other Side of Everything Working Out

Scripture: “If you keep My commandments, you will abide in My love, just as I have kept My Father's commandments and abide in His love. These things I have spoken to you, that My joy may remain in you, and that your joy may be full.” John 15:10–11 (NKJV)

What would it take for you to experience more joy in your life?

A better job? A bigger paycheck? A healthier relationship? Less stress? Maybe an answered prayer you've been waiting on for a long time? We all have our lists.

And somewhere along the way, we begin making quiet agreements with ourselves. I'll enjoy life when things settle down. I'll be happier when I get that promotion. I'll celebrate when I finally reach that goal. Without realizing it, we begin placing our joy on hold, waiting for life to give us permission to enjoy it.

But here's something worth considering: "What if the very thing you're waiting on to experience joy isn't actually required for you to have it?"

Happiness and Joy Aren't Quite the Same

Happiness is frequently connected to what's happening around us. Good news, accomplishments, and favorable circumstances naturally make us happy. And there's nothing wrong with that! But joy goes deeper.

Joy allows us to experience gratitude, meaning, contentment, and hope even when life isn't going according to plan. It doesn't mean ignoring problems or pretending disappointment doesn't hurt. You can be disappointed with a situation without becoming disappointed with your entire life. That's an important distinction.

Joy Has a Source

In John 15, Jesus was preparing His disciples for a difficult season. He knew they would soon face uncertainty, grief, and challenges they couldn't fully understand. Yet He spoke to them about joy. Notice the connection Jesus makes in verses 10 and 11.

He speaks about remaining in His love through obedience and then explains that He has shared these things so His joy might remain in them and their joy might be full. Jesus connects joy to an ongoing relationship with Him; not simply to favorable circumstances or getting everything we want. Joy isn't something we have to wait for life to give us. It's something we can cultivate through our relationship with God. And that changes how we approach everyday life.

Finding Joy Where You Are

At Work: Maybe your job isn't everything you hoped it would be. Your contributions aren't always recognized, or your career isn't progressing as expected. You can acknowledge those frustrations, pursue better opportunities, and still find satisfaction in doing meaningful work today. In Leadership: It's easy to become so focused on results, responsibilities, and expectations that you forget why you started leading. Rediscovering joy may mean appreciating the people you're developing and the difference you're making; even when results aren't immediately visible.

In Life: There will always be something that needs fixing, improving, or figuring out. But not everything good has to be extraordinary to be worth celebrating. Sometimes joy is found in meaningful conversations, laughter with people you love, or simply recognizing how far you've come.

In Faith: You can trust God and still have questions. You can believe His promises and still experience disappointment. You can walk in obedience and still face difficult seasons. Joy doesn't require you to deny life's realities. It invites you to remain connected to God through them.

Don't Miss What's Good While Waiting for What's Next

I wonder how many meaningful moments we've overlooked because we were so focused on what hadn't happened yet. The conversation we barely enjoyed because we were thinking about tomorrow's responsibilities. The small accomplishment we dismissed because it wasn't the breakthrough we wanted.

The people, opportunities, and everyday experiences we've started taking for granted. And sometimes, in genuinely painful seasons, joy may be harder to recognize. That's okay, too. Joy doesn't demand that every day feel good. It reminds us that goodness can still be present in difficult days. Maybe this week, instead of asking what needs to change before you can experience joy, ask yourself:

What is good in my life right now that I've stopped noticing?

Then do something intentional. Express appreciation. Celebrate a small win. Take a break without guilt. Be present with the people you love. Spend time with God; not just asking Him to change your circumstances but allowing Him to shape your perspective. These practices won't make every problem disappear, but they can help us appreciate the life we're living while continuing to pursue the life we're building.

Something to Think About

What have you been waiting to happen before giving yourself permission to experience joy? And what might you be missing today while you're waiting for tomorrow to look different?

A Prayer

Father, thank You for reminding me that joy doesn't have to depend on everything going according to my plans. Help me recognize the good that's already present in my life, even when I'm facing challenges or disappointment. Teach me to remain connected to You, appreciate the people and opportunities around me, and find meaning in the everyday moments I sometimes overlook. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Don't become so focused on the life you're trying to build that you forget to experience the life you're already living.

Uncle André

Scripture: Peter asked Jesus, “What about him, Lord?” Jesus replied, “…what is that to you? As for you, follow me.” John 21:21–22 (NLT)

Have you ever been perfectly fine with your life...until you saw somebody else's? You were grateful for your house…until you saw theirs. You felt good about your career…until someone announced their promotion. You were making progress financially…until you saw someone else's vacation, car, or lifestyle. You were comfortable being single…until another engagement announcement showed up. You were proud of what you were building…until you saw how quickly somebody else's thing seemed to be growing.

Nothing about your life actually changed. But suddenly, it didn't feel like enough. That's THE COMPARISON TAX. And we pay it with things more valuable than money.

We pay with our peace. Our gratitude. Our confidence. Sometimes even our obedience. Peter Paid It Too.

At the end of John's Gospel, Jesus has a deeply personal conversation with Peter. Peter had denied Jesus three times. Now Jesus restores him, recommissions him, and tells Peter something about the road ahead. This is a significant moment. Jesus is talking to Peter about Peter's calling. But Peter looks over, sees John, and asks:

“What about him, Lord?”

Isn't that us? What about her? What about his career? How did they get there so quickly? Why did their prayer get answered? Why is their business growing? Why did they get the opportunity? Why does their life seem easier than mine?

Jesus gives Peter an answer that I think many of us need: “…what is that to you? As for you, follow me.” In other words: Peter, his assignment isn't your responsibility. Yours is.

Comparison Distracts You From Your Assignment

Comparison usually starts with observation. But eventually observation becomes evaluation. And before long, we're evaluating our lives using somebody else's assignment. That's where comparison becomes expensive. Because while you're watching their lane, you can lose focus in yours.

Social Media Makes Everybody Else's Life Look Like Evidence

Today, we have unprecedented access to other people's lives. Or at least the parts they choose to show us. We see the announcement - we don't see the anxiety. We see the promotion - we don't see the years of disappointment. We see the marriage photos - we don't see the counseling. We see the successful business - we don't see the nights they wondered if it would survive.

We're comparing our behind-the-scenes to somebody else's highlight reel. And then wondering why our life doesn't measure up. But God never asked your life to look like theirs.

Somebody Else's Blessing Isn't Evidence of Your Neglect

This one matters. When something good happens for someone else, it doesn't mean God overlooked you. Their promotion isn't your demotion. Their marriage isn't evidence that you've been forgotten. Their opportunity doesn't mean yours isn't coming. Their success doesn't diminish your calling. You can celebrate what God is doing in someone else's life without questioning what He's doing in yours. That's freedom.

Stop Paying the Tax

Maybe Jesus' words to Peter need to become our words this week: “What is that to you? As for you, follow me.” Stop checking their timeline. Stop measuring their progress. Stop wondering why their road looks different. And ask a better question:

“God, what have You asked me to do with the life You've given me?”

Then do that. Faithfully. Joyfully. Consistently. Because you can't fully follow your assignment while constantly checking somebody else's progress.

Something to Think About

Whose life have you been using as the measuring stick for your own? And what has that comparison been costing you? Your peace? Your gratitude? Your confidence? Your ability to celebrate others? Maybe it's time to stop paying the comparison tax.

A Prayer

Father, thank You for the life You've given me. Forgive me for allowing comparison to steal my gratitude for what You're doing in my own story. Help me celebrate others without questioning myself. Give me the discipline to keep my eyes on You and the courage to faithfully walk the path You've given me. When I'm tempted to ask, “What about them?” remind me of Your invitation: “As for you, follow Me.” In Jesus' name, Amen.

You can't fully follow your assignment while constantly checking somebody else's progress.

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Uncle André

Root Scripture: 2 Corinthians 4:7–10

Paul gives us an interesting picture in this passage. He describes us as jars of clay carrying treasure.Think about that.

Clay jars aren’t indestructible. They can be scratched, chipped, dropped, and cracked. Yet Paul says God intentionally places something valuable inside something fragile so that it becomes clear that the extraordinary power comes from God; not from us.

Then Paul gets very practical:

Pressed but not crushed. Perplexed but not in despair. Persecuted but not abandoned. Struck down but not destroyed.

Notice what Paul doesn’t say.

He doesn’t say we won’t experience pressure. He doesn’t say we’ll always understand what’s happening. He doesn’t say people won’t disappoint us. And he certainly doesn’t say we’ll never get knocked down.

His message is much more realistic: You can bend without breaking.

In Life

Sometimes life just gets heavy.Family. Finances. Health. Relationships. Responsibilities. Unexpected changes. Things you thought would have worked out by now but haven’t.

Being overwhelmed for a moment doesn’t mean you’re defeated. There’s a difference between feeling pressure and being crushed by it.

Give yourself permission to acknowledge, “This is hard.”

You don’t have to pretend something doesn’t hurt in order to prove that you have faith. I’ve had to remind myself of that recently.

On July 23, 2026, I learned that my I was out of a job.

Regardless of how much experience you have, how hard you’ve worked, or how much you’ve accomplished, news like that can make you stop and ask, “Okay; what now?”

And perhaps that’s exactly where Paul’s words become more than something we quote. Perplexed but not in despair.

I didn’t immediately know what was next. But not knowing what’s next isn’t the same as having no future.

At Work

Our careers have a way of becoming intertwined with our identity.

We introduce ourselves by what we do. We measure progress by titles, responsibilities, compensation, accomplishments, and recognition.

Then something changes. A restructuring happens. Leadership changes. The client leaves. The promotion doesn’t come. The position disappears. That’s when we have to remember:

A role can be discontinued without your purpose being discontinued.

I’m living that lesson right now.

July 23 changed my employment circumstances, but it didn’t erase decades of experience, leadership, lessons learned, relationships built, people developed, or wisdom gained along the way. The same is true for you.

A setback can affect your circumstances without defining your capability.

Learn from it. Adjust. Grow. But don’t allow one chapter to write the entire story.

In Leadership

Leadership will test your resilience. People will disappoint you. Decisions won’t always work. You won’t always have the answer. And sometimes you’ll have to encourage other people while privately wrestling with uncertainty yourself.

That’s where mature leadership shows up. Strong leaders aren’t people who never get hit.

Strong leaders learn how to absorb difficulty without transferring their frustration, fear, and disappointment to everyone around them.

Sometimes your team, family, or the people who look to you don’t need you to have every answer. They need to see that uncertainty doesn’t automatically produce panic.

They need to see that disappointment doesn’t have to become bitterness. And sometimes the most important leadership lesson you will ever teach isn’t something you say.It’s how you respond when life doesn’t go according to your plan.

In Faith

Here’s where Paul’s words become especially powerful.

Our faith doesn’t exempt us from pressure. It gives us Someone to depend on while we’re under pressure.

Paul says we can be perplexed without despair because our hope isn’t dependent upon understanding everything.

We can be knocked down without being destroyed because our future isn’t determined solely by what knocked us down. And we can feel alone without actually being abandoned.

That’s the treasure inside the clay jar. God’s strength showing up in the places where ours runs out.

Maybe you’ve been measuring your strength by how hard you’ve been hit.

Try another measurement. Look at what is still standing after the hit. You’re still here. Still learning. Still growing. Still becoming. Still carrying something valuable.

And God is still working.

Uncle André’s Thought for the Week

You may be carrying more pressure than you wanted, but you’re also carrying more treasure than you realize.

The pressure is real. The disappointment may be real. The uncertainty may be real. But none of them get the final word.

You can be pressed without being crushed. You can be confused without becoming hopeless. You can get knocked down without staying down.

I’ve had to learn this personally:

Something ending is not the same thing as everything ending. Sometimes resilience isn’t standing perfectly straight through every storm. Sometimes resilience is simply discovering:

I can bend without breaking.

Take a Minute and Ask Yourself…

What is pressing me right now that I’ve mistakenly interpreted as crushing me? Where am I allowing uncertainty about what’s next to become hopelessness about my future? What ending have I mistakenly interpreted as the end? And perhaps the most important question:

What might God be developing in me through something I’ve only been asking Him to remove?

Whatever you’re carrying this week, remember the jar may be fragile, but there’s still treasure inside.

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— Uncle André

Some decisions become easier when you’ve already decided who you’re going to be.

Core Scripture

“But Daniel was determined not to defile himself by eating the food and wine given to them by the king.” Daniel 1:8 (NLT)

We make decisions every day. Some are relatively insignificant. What will I eat? What will I wear? Can this wait until tomorrow? Others carry considerably more weight. Should I take the job? Should I stay or leave? Should I say yes to this opportunity? Do I confront the issue or remain silent? Is God leading me toward this or is it simply something I really want?

Those decisions can be difficult because we rarely have all the information we want. We want certainty. We want guarantees. We want to know how everything will turn out before deciding what to do. But life rarely works that way. And neither does faith.

Daniel Had Already Decided

Daniel's story gives us an interesting perspective on decision-making. As a young man, his entire world changed. Jerusalem had been conquered. He was taken to Babylon and placed into a completely different culture with new surroundings, expectations, pressures…even a new name. Then came a decision.

Daniel and the other young men selected for the king's service were offered food and wine from the king's table. Accepting it might have seemed like the obvious thing to do. Daniel didn't choose to be in Babylon. He wasn't controlling the environment. Why create another problem?

But Daniel 1:8 tells us: “Daniel was determined not to defile himself…”

I love that word: determined. Daniel didn't wait for the pressure of the moment to decide what mattered. There had already been a decision before the decision. He had decided who he was, what he believed, and what he would honor. The circumstances were new but his convictions weren't.

That raises an important question: What have you already decided?

When Every Option Looks Reasonable

Some of life's hardest decisions aren't choices between something obviously right and obviously wrong. Sometimes both opportunities look good. The new position pays more, but it may cost something you value. An opportunity could increase your influence but require compromises you're uncomfortable making. Saying yes could open a door. Saying no could protect something important. That's when we need to move beyond asking:

“What do I want?” Or even: “Which option looks better?” And ask: “Which decision is consistent with the person I have decided to become?” Because the best decision isn't always the easiest, most profitable, impressive, or comfortable one. Sometimes the right decision is the one most aligned with your convictions.

Four Questions Before You Decide

When the answer isn't obvious, four questions can help us make better decisions.

1. ALIGNMENT — Does this align with who I believe I'm called to be? Before asking what an opportunity can give you, ask what it will require from you. Does it align with your values, responsibilities, priorities, faith, and the person you want to become? There are opportunities you are capable of pursuing that may not be yours to pursue. Not every good opportunity is your opportunity.

2. WISDOM — What do Scripture, experience, and wise counsel tell me? Proverbs 15:22 (NLT) says: “Plans go wrong for lack of advice; many advisers bring success.” Sometimes we're so emotionally invested in a decision that we lose the ability to see it objectively. Excitement can distort perspective. So can disappointment and fear. Talk with people who don't simply tell you what you want to hear. Consider what previous experiences have taught you. Most importantly, consider whether your decision is consistent with God's Word. Prayer and wisdom aren't competitors. They belong together.

3. MOTIVE — What is really driving this decision? This may be the most uncomfortable question. Am I moving because of faith—or fear? Conviction—or frustration? Purpose—or ego? Wisdom—or impatience? Calling—or comparison? Sometimes the decision itself isn't necessarily wrong, but the motivation behind it needs attention. We can leave because God is leading us forward—or because we're angry. We can pursue something because we're prepared for greater responsibility or because we need to prove something. Same decision. Very different motive. Before defending your decision, examine what's driving it.

4. DIRECTION — Where will decisions like this eventually take me? We naturally think about immediate consequences: What will happen next? What will I gain? What will this cost? But look farther down the road. If I continue making decisions like this, where will they eventually take me? One decision can become a pattern. Patterns become habits. Habits shape character. And character influences direction. Every decision doesn't determine your destiny. But repeated decisions determine your direction—and direction eventually determines where you arrive.

Conviction Doesn’t Require Certainty

Making a wise decision doesn't guarantee you'll feel completely certain afterward. We sometimes imagine the right decision will produce immediate peace, perfect clarity, and no second thoughts. Not always.

You can make a wise decision and still wonder. You can follow God and still have questions. Daniel couldn't see everything that was coming. Neither can you. Faith isn't knowing every outcome before taking the next step. Sometimes faith means moving forward based on what you know while trusting God with what you don't.

Decide Before You Have to Decide

Maybe there's a significant decision in front of you right now. Before rushing toward an answer, make four smaller decisions: 1) I will choose alignment over opportunity, 2) I will choose wisdom over impulse, 3) I will examine my motives before defending my choices, and 4) I will consider where this decision is taking me; not merely what it gives me today. Then pray. Listen. Seek counsel. And trust God enough to move when it's time.

Because some of life's most important decisions are made quietly beforehand when you decide: This is who I am. This is what I believe. This is what matters. This is who I'm becoming. And when that decision has already been made, the next one can become a little clearer.

This Week's Reflection

Think about one decision you're currently facing. Instead of beginning with “What should I do?”, ask:

ALIGNMENT: Does this align with who I believe I'm called to be?

WISDOM: What are Scripture, experience, and wise counsel telling me?

MOTIVE: What is really driving this decision?

DIRECTION: If I continue making decisions like this, where will they eventually take me?

Write down your answers. Then ask God for the courage to make the decision that is consistent with who He is shaping you to become.

Prayer

God, give me wisdom for the decisions in front of me and conviction for the moments I cannot predict. Examine my motives, align my desires with Your will, surround me with wise counsel, and help me consider where my choices are leading me. When I don't have certainty about the outcome, give me courage to trust You with what I cannot see. Help my decisions reflect not only what I want today, but who You are calling me to become. In Jesus’ Name, Amen!

Foundational Scripture — Isaiah 43:18–19 (NLT)

“But forget all that—it is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun! Do you not see it?”

When Beginning Again Looks Nothing Like Before

There are times in life when we have no choice but to begin again. A career changes. A relationship ends. A dream doesn’t happen the way we imagined. Something we spent years building disappears. Suddenly, we find ourselves standing in a place we never expected to be.

But sometimes the greatest difficulty isn’t beginning again. It’s accepting that beginning again may look nothing like what came before.

We compare the new opportunity to the old one. The new season to the previous one. The person we are today to the person we used to be. And without realizing it, we can become so committed to getting back to where we were that we miss what God wants to do where we are.

When My Life Looked Very Different

Years ago, I had the great privilege of serving as Chief Operating Officer of a company with nearly 400 employees.

Then came what felt like a tsunami of events. During the Great Recession, the company was sold, and I was asked to relocate to New York City. It was a tremendous opportunity, but it wasn’t the right decision for my family.

I turned my attention to the ministry God had given me a vision to start. But the recession was hitting families in our ministry hard as well. It took 16 months for me to find another corporate role. When I finally did, my new base salary was only 43% of what I had previously earned, and for the first time in my career, I was an individual contributor.

Then came another painful decision: I had to leave the ministry I had start. Career. Calling. Finances. Identity. Family. It felt like everything was being tested at the same time. I knew how to lead organizations. I knew how to build teams. I knew how to solve complex problems. But finding the strength to begin again? That was much harder.

Stop Measuring the New by the Old

When I started that new job, it would have been easy to focus on everything I no longer had. The title was different. The scope was smaller. The compensation was significantly less. My life did not look anything like I thought it would. But within six weeks, I saw an opportunity and created a new function that could help both our company and our clients. Something began changing in me.

About six months into the role, my prayer shifted. Instead of asking: “Why am I so limited in my scope, pay, and role?” I began asking: “God, show me how to share my experience and expertise with my peers across this company.” That change in perspective changed everything. I gave myself permission to begin differently.

Different Doesn't Mean Less

That’s one of the lessons I hear in Isaiah 43. God says, “I am about to do something new. See, I have already begun!” New means it may not look like the old. And that's okay. We can spend so much time asking God to restore what we had that we fail to recognize what He is developing in what we have. Maybe your next season doesn't come with the same title. Maybe the relationship looks different. Maybe the dream has changed. Maybe your influence doesn't come with the position you thought you needed.

Maybe you're being asked to serve when you're accustomed to leading. Different doesn't automatically mean less. Sometimes different is where God teaches us things that success never could.

You Are Not Starting From Zero

If you have to begin again, remember this: You aren't beginning empty-handed. You bring experience. Wisdom. Lessons learned. Relationships built. Mistakes survived. Faith strengthened. And a history with God that reminds you He has been faithful before.

I entered that new role without my previous title, compensation, or organizational authority. But I didn't enter without experience. Eventually, I stopped focusing on the authority I no longer had and started asking how I could use what God had already placed inside me. That is a very different way to begin again.

Hey Uncle André...

Maybe you're comparing where you are today with where you used to be. Stop assuming that moving forward has to look like going backward to retrieve what you had. God may not be recreating your previous season. He may be inviting you to enter the next one differently. So release the need for the new beginning to look like the old one.

Bring the wisdom. Bring the lessons. Bring your experience. Bring your faith. And then ask: “God, how can You use who I am and what You've taught me right where I am?”

You may discover that beginning differently isn't a step backward at all. It may be the very place where God begins showing you what He was preparing you for all along. Give yourself permission to begin differently.

A Question to Carry With You

What would change if you stopped comparing your new beginning to your old season and asked God what He wants to do through you right where you are?